1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. (NIV)
It seemed appropriate to discuss these verses today since it is Valentine’s Day. Everyone has people in their lives whom they love. Often times, we get caught up with life and ourselves. It is very easy to become self absorbed and forget about those we love. How often, do you pick up the phone to call someone to check up on them and let them know you love them? How often do you become self absorbed with things that you do not see or hear your loved ones that live with you?
Andy Stanley’s iMarriage came back to me. I appreciate Andy Stanley as a pastor. I think he makes it very easy to understand his messages. In his Marriage Expectations (iMarriage)Part 1, he discusses two big I’s. Each person walks down the aisle with each being big I – each having their own expectations of what the other person was to be like. As long as I leads to the marriage, then it will struggle. What needs to be at the center of the marriage for it to strive and be successful is God. Love is a gift. God wants us to put our spouses first as Jesus laid down his life/ put us first. Wives submit to their husbands and husbands submit to their wives out of reverence to God. It has nothing to do with if they deserve it or not, it is out of reverence to God.
Love is not easily angered. I admit it at times this can be difficult for me personally. Sometimes lack of proper sleep or if I am hungry, can put me in some mood swings where my husband comes out the bad guy. I will grumble, say things under my breathe, and get upset over the littlest things. Little things like his shoes in the middle of the floor, him never making his side of the bed, the fact he is snoring and getting rest, the fact he is rested and not helping get children ready for school etc. Often, I need to take a deep breath, pray, apologize to God for my crummy thoughts about hubby going on in my head, and then I need to apologize to my husband if I lashed out in anger. This is something that I am continuously working on for I am perfectly imperfect.
Love does not keep records of wrongs. In the past, I was really bad about this. My husband says he wishes that I did not have a memory like an elephant about certain things. Though I remember certain things, I do not bring them up in our heated discussions. I do not hold my husband accountable for past mistakes as I do not want to be held responsible for my past mistakes. I try hard to live in the moment and look toward the future.
Daily, I work on accepting my husband as the person he is. I want to show unconditional love. God made him the way he is, the perfect husband for me. Though we differ a lot in our beliefs, many ways we compliment each other. My husband is a blessing that God provided to me. I need to make effort for Jim to realize that. I do not want to change him rather I want to help him be the best He can be. I want him to help me the best me I can be!