Monthly Archives: November 2015

The Number #1 Questions Asked

This started happening around the time Briella turned 2 months old.  Family members, acquaintances, and total strangers had the exact same question.  They were longing to know: are you done having children / will you have any more children?  Now if you have asked me this question take a deep breath and relax.  It is all good.  I am not offended or anything.  I just have to laugh when people would ask me even before I had my first post pregnancy gyno appointment.  Having another baby was the last thing on my mind.  When people asked me I might have had a deer in the headlights look.  It was not something I was pondering as we as a family were getting used to having a baby around again.  It has been an adjustment for all of us.

Then when people realize that I have 4 girls. Oh the magnitude of different comments I hear.  “You better have lots of bathrooms.”  “Oh I feel sorry for your husband.  I would not want to be him when you all are PMSing.”  I laugh at this comment and tell the person, “I may want to hide during this week too.  Can I just stay in a tent like in Bible times?”  “Your husband sure is outnumbered?”  “Are you going to try for a boy?”  In all honesty, yes we would love to be blessed with a son.  My husband had always thought we would have two children a girl and a boy.  I had always been open to the idea of a bigger family since I only have one sibling on here – a younger brother.  I do have a sister in Heaven.  I had always thought that I would be blessed with at least 1 girl and 1 boy.  It turns out, I have been blessed with 4 girls and 1 child in heaven (I truly believe that child is our boy).  Some day I will know for sure.  In the meantime, I am trying to enjoy the 4 beautiful girls that God bestowed to us.  I am trying to enjoy Briella’s baby stage, because she very well may be the last one.  I really do not know right now.  Only time will tell when the infant stage will be totally over for me.  If you happen to see Jim walking funny, then you will know that we decided that our table is full, our days of having more babies is done!

Mark 12:31

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Mark 12:31 New International Version (NIV)

31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[a] There is no commandment greater than these.”

Jesus said that the most important thing is to love God.  We can demonstrate our love by following the 10 Commandments.

10 commandments

 

The second most important thing is to love our neighbor.  ALL people of the world are our neighbors.   God loves all his people and we are called to do the same.  He expects us to love our enemies – everyone!  Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end… And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love. (NRSV, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, 13)

You may be saying but how can I love everyone?  It is what God wants us to do.  Jesus put his life up for us to erase our sins because he loved us so much.  He suffered on that cross for us – all of us.  We have to try our best to love everyone and be like Jesus.  We owe it to Him!  God loves us even when we have messed up for the trillionth time.  We should try to love others even when they mess up the trillionth time in regard to us.  It is not always easy to chose love.  Hate may seem the easier choice.  I assure you it is not because it eats you up inside.  You lose out on the joys of life when you choose hate.  We are called to pray for our enemies not to hate them.  Please join me today  in choosing to love our neighbors all of them and praying for them!

Colossians 4:6

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Yes God keeps bringing me to scripture in regard to watching what I say and who I say it too.  Sometimes it is something I struggle with especially with one of my middle children who challenge me almost daily.

Paul is the writer of Colossians 4:6. To speak with grace means to say what is spiritual, wholesome, fitting, kind, sensitive, purposeful, complementary, gentle, truthful, loving, and thoughtful.  You need grace in your heart in order to speak with grace.  You can have grace in your heart by having a relationship with God.

It is not only to be gracious, but also to have an effect. Believers’ speech should act as a purifying influence.  You want to not have filth when talking to others.  Similar to a previous post, I need to T.H.I.N.K. (Is what I am saying or about to say: True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, & Kind).  Salt can add flavor so add value to the conversation – build people up.

Believers must also know how to respond to each person. They must know how to say the right thing at the right time.  This takes really knowing the specific person and through prayers.

Encouraging Relationships

Often, as a Mom you have to referee relationships in your home.  There are many different personalities that live in my household.  Often these personalities clash.  Sometimes I fail as the peacemaker because I may be struggling keeping the peace because I am fed up with a child’s behavior.  I am human and make mistakes.  Luckily, I have the courage to go to my child and apologize if I was out of line.  It is so important that our children realize we are not perfect and that we do not expect them to be perfect either.  God does not expect us to be perfect.  He knows we try our best to be like Jesus but we will always fall short one way or the other.  We are sinners and He knows it.  God gives us grace and we are to give grace to others.  I try to give grace and teach my children what it looks like to receive and give grace.

fathers

I had to remind my loving husband that he is an extremely important part of our girls’ lives.  A father’s acceptance and love is vital to a girl.  I know because it is something I struggled with growing up.  Now I know I only need to rely on my heavenly father’s love always.  In reminded Jim how much he is loved, we planned a father daughter date for him with Deanna.  She needed the experience the most.  It is not the first time he has done dates with the girls.  We just need to schedule these more often.  It is important to me that they see they are loved, respected, and accepted by their Earthly father too.  I want our girls’ to be comfortable talking to their Dad about anything.  Fostering a close relationship now will pay off during the more challenging years to come like middle school.  It is nice for a child to be able to get the perspective of the opposite sex.  That is something I cannot offer them.  Jim’s relationship with the each girl is different than my relationship with each girl.  That is perfectly fine because it is supposed to be that way.  These father daughter dates are a great opportunity to teach them what to expect from a guy.  He can teach them about holding the door for them, pulling their chair out, paying for the date, and asking them questions too not just focusing on himself.  It is important that he teaches them to expect respect from guys so that they will receive it.  They need to feel worthy and self confident.  I will continue to encourage that he have dates with each of our girls each by themselves.  No one shall be left behind or lost in the pack!

Thank You Veterans

Dear Veterans and their Families,

Thank you for everything that you do.  I thank you for the sacrifices that your families and you have made and continue to make for us!  Without our brave veterans and those still serving, we would not live in this wonderful free country.  THANK YOU! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

God is always Near —— Never Once by Matt Redman

god bring you to it

Sometimes, life is hard.  I do not know what battle you face today – health issues, loss of loved one, struggling marriage, childless, struggling with family members or your children etc., God is ALWAYS with us!  God never lets us walk alone.  He is always there for us and his strength can get us through ANYTHING that we face.   He is faithful and He delivers what he promises in the Bible.  God can be trusted and relied upon.  If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it!  Be blessed by these words today my dear siblings through Christ!

Tree Change Dolls

Months ago, I came across the Tree Change Dolls.  I love the idea of making dolls look more natural!  Anyone that truly knows me, knows I have issues with how doll companies sexualize little girl dolls.  If I am being honest some of the dolls faces, are downright scary looking.  The toy companies put so much paint on to look like makeup that the dolls look like they are ready for Halloween.  I do not know real women who wear that much makeup on their faces in real life.  I was beyond thrilled when I stumbled onto the Tree Change Dolls.  I think I might have seen them on Facebook first.  I know that dolls play a special part in my daughters’ lives.  They love playing with them.  The fact there is a way to make them look more like my children – SCORE!  Sonia, the founder of Tree Change Dolls, removes the dolls paint and starts over. She paints new faces on the dolls.  Sonia strives to make each doll special, unique.  You will not find two of her dolls that look exactly alike.  Then Sonia’s Mom knits clothes for the dolls.  Sonia does sell the dolls on Etsy here.

Now if you are feeling adventurous, you can repaint your own dolls.  This is an adventure that my oldest and myself will be embarking on soon.  When I showed Jessica the Tree Change Dolls, she fell in love with the idea.  We have not worked out all the kinks yet especially the doll clothes because a knitter I am not.  We will figure it out.  We watched Sonia’s youtube video to help us get started.  Once we have completed our first one, I will update with pictures.

Who is ready to change their child’s dolls?

Vegan No Churn Chocolate Ice cream

I enjoy easy recipes.  I have really enjoyed perusing the Minimalist Baker’s site.  She uses 10 ingredients or less in her recipes.  This recipe I shared on Pinterest and it has been shared over 50 times within a few days.  Enjoy!

Ingredients
  • (2) 14-ounce cans coconut cream OR full fat coconut milk, chilled overnight in the fridge (I like Trader Joe’s coconut cream, or Thai Kitchen coconut milk)
  • 2/3 cup unsweetened cocoa or cacao powder
  • 14-16 ounces pitted dates (if not sticky and moist, soak in warm water for 10 minutes then drain)
  • 1 tsp pure vanilla extract
  • 1/2 cup unsweetened almond milk

For the directions, pictures, and complete recipe, please go to Minimalist Baker

John 1:8

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The Word Became Flesh

1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
2 He was with God in the beginning.
3 Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made.
4 In him was life, and that life was the light of men.
5 The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it.
6 There came a man who was sent from God; his name was John.
7 He came as a witness to testify concerning that light, so that through him all men might believe.
8 He himself was not the light; he came only as a witness to the light.
9 The true light that gives light to every man was coming into the world.
10 He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him.
11 He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him.
12 Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God–
13 children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.
14 The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.
15 John testifies concerning him. He cries out, saying, “This was he of whom I said, ‘He who comes after me has surpassed me because he was before me.’ ”
16 From the fullness of his grace we have all received one blessing after another.
17 For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.
18 No one has ever seen God, but God the One and Only, who is at the Father’s side, has made him known.

John was sent to get others to follow Him and then believe in the light (Jesus Christ).  What a huge responsibility placed on John .  John was humble and did not make it about himself.  John had his eyes cast up onto God.  He is a great example of what being a witness means.
We belong to God.  Life is not about us rather about shining the light of Jesus to a darkened world.  I need a less of me more of you attitude daily!